Her sister does not pray and does not behave properly

 

What should i do of my younger sister. She does not offer any prayers, she is always telling lies and fighhting.The whole house is sick and tired of her.

Praise be to Allaah.
 

 

We appreciate your getting in touch with us,
and we ask Allaah to guide us and protect us from the evil of our own selves.

 With regard to your sister’s situation, it
is the same in the case of many young people these days. We ask Allaah to guide them and us. Our duty towards them – as it seems to be – is as
follows:

 Firstly: we should turn to Allaah and ask
Him to guide them, for He is the controller of the hearts. Perhaps a du’aa’ from the heart will be the cause of her happiness in this world and in
the Hereafter.

 Secondly: you should stop dealing with her
on the basis that she is a child or that she does not know what is in her best interests. People – especially in adolescence – like the people
around them to make them feel that they are important; they do not like people to treat them as if they are still children.

 Thirdly: try to get her in touch with
righteous young women, and keep her away from her friends who are not good, even if that means changing her school. That should be done without
her realizing what is going on, because otherwise she may become more stubborn which will make the problem worse.

 Fourthly: You should not look at her with
disapproval only, rather you should express your approval of good things that she does and you should give her gifts if she does good things.

 Fifthly: you could advise her via a person
whom she likes, such as a teacher or friend, etc.

 Sixthly: You should try to give her tapes or
books containing teachings in an indirect manner, such as putting them near her or listening to the tape in the car whilst she is riding in it.

 With regard to her not praying, this is an
extremely serious matter. The status of prayer in Islam is that of a foundation on which the entire structure rests. Hence the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “The covenant that stands between us and them is prayer; whoever does not pray is a kaafir.” (Narrated
by al-Tirmidhi, 2621; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 2113)

 And he (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: “Between a man and shirk and kufr stands his giving up prayer.” (Narrated by Muslim, 82).

 So you have to advise her and preach to her
and guide her to the right way; for this purpose you may combine encouragement and threat, gentleness and strictness; if the matter requires some
harshness sometimes, there is nothing wrong with using it.

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and hit them if they do not pray when they are ten, and
separate them in their beds.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 495; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 466.

 This strictness and harshness is only in her
best interests.

 We ask Allaah to set the affairs of the
Muslims straight.

Teaching about the Creator in simple terms

 

How can we help a child to know his Lord?

Praise be to Allaah.
 

 

A child can be taught
about Allaah in a suitable manner, according to his level of understanding.
He can be told that Allaah is One and has no partner. He can be told that He
is the Creator of all things, so He is the Creator of the earth, the
heavens, people, animals, trees, rivers, etc. The educator can make the most
of some situations by asking the child, whilst walking through a garden or
in the countryside, about Who made the water, rivers and things in the
natural scenery around him, to draw his attention to the greatness of the
Creator. The father, mother or educators in general may be with a child or
group of children in a car on a journey or a trip at the time of sunset,
when the sun disappears from sight gradually. All that the educator has to
do at that point is to draw the attention of those who are with him to the
power of Allaah displayed in that. 

A child can also be taught to understand the bounty of Allaah
and the blessing of good health that He has bestowed upon him. For example,
you could say to him, “Who gave you your hearing, sight and mind? Who gave
you strength and the ability to move?” and so on. The child can also be
encouraged to love Allaah and to thank Him for this blessing and bounty. 
Making a child love Allaah and the things that Allaah loves is a good action
which will bring educational benefits sooner or later, by Allaah’s Leave. 

A mother opened a window on the second floor of the house to
let some air in, but her child came and quickly closed it. When his mother
asked him why he had done that, he said, “I saw the dish on one of our
neighbours’ roofs and I don’t want to look at anything that my Lord does not
like.” 

A child may ask about his Lord, whether He eats or sleeps. In
that case we have to answer and tell him that there is nothing like Allaah,
and He is the All-Hearing, All-Seeing; neither slumber nor sleep overtakes
Him. Allaah is not like us, He does not need to sleep, eat or drink. 

If these meanings are made simple for a child and explained to him in a way that is suited to his age, then the veneration of Allaah in his heart is one of the things that will help him to be aware that Allaah is watching him in secret and in public. 

 

He married a Christian woman and had a son, and she wants to have him baptized in the church

 

Iam married from a christian woman and i live now in lebanon and she live in her country and now have a baby and his age is about 2 months but now she is telling me that she wants to make the baby christian and she wants to take him to church to make this what i do i need solution and what i have to say to her.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

It is permissible for a
Muslim man to marry a Christian woman, if she is chaste. Because Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“Made lawful to you this
day are At‑Tayyibaat [all kinds of Halaal (lawful) foods, which Allaah has
made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, milk products, fats,
vegetables and fruits)]. The food (slaughtered cattle, eatable animals) of
the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours
is lawful to them. (Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the
believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and
Christians) before your time when you have given their due Mahr
(bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage),
desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal
sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends”

[al-Maa'idah 5:5] 

However it is not advisable
to marry a kitaabi (i.e., Jewish or Christian) woman nowadays, because it is
fraught with dangers, especially with regard to the children’s upbringing. 

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah
have mercy on him) said: If the kitaabi woman is known to be chaste and to
keep away from the things that lead to immoral actions, then it is
permissible, because Allaah has permitted us to marry their women and eat
their food. 

But nowadays there is the
fear of great evil for those who marry them, because they may call him to
their religion and that may lead to his children becoming Christian, so the
danger is great. In order to be on the safe side, the believer should not
marry her. Moreover, there is no guarantee that she will not fall into
immoral ways, and attribute to him children who are not his. But if he needs
to do that then there is nothing wrong with it, so that he can keep himself
chaste and lower his gaze, and he should strive to call her to Islam, and
beware of her evil lest she drag him or the children into kufr. End quote
from Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/172). 

Hence you can see that the
Christianization of the children is one of the greatest dangers to be feared
as a result of marrying a Christian woman. Undoubtedly it is not permissible
for you to allow that under any circumstances. You should have made it clear
to her before marriage that your children would be Muslims and that they
could not be made Christians, and that this issue was not open to discussion
or compromise. 

What you have to do now is
protect your son’s religion and prevent him from being made a Christian. If
your wife insists on that then you have no choice but to make her stay with
you in your city, or keep the child only, even if that leads to you leaving
her and divorcing her. This is a serious matter, because it is the matter of
kufr and faith; we seek refuge with Allaah from misguidance. 

It should be noted that the
child’s being baptized does not actually make him a Christian, rather he is
a Muslim who follows the religion of his Muslim father, and he cannot become
a Christian unless he understands Christianity and chooses it for himself.
As for his baptism, he has no choice in the matter, and it does not affect
the religion which Allaah created in him, which is Islam. 

Try by all means to protect
this child and prevent him being taught Christian teachings. Remember that
you are responsible for him and that the worst neglect and betrayal of this
trust would be to leave him disbelieving in Allaah. 

We ask Allaah to protect
you and your offspring and to divert evil away from them.  

And Allaah knows best.

He uncovered his ‘awrah in front of his sons to teach them how to shave the pubic hair!

 

I have a question that I would like to ask you. A father uncovered his reproductive organ and explained to his sons after they reached puberty how they should shave the pubic hair, and said that doing that is mustahabb in Islam. Is this correct? Or is what this father did haraam?.

Praise be to Allaah.

What the father did of uncovering his ‘awrah in front of
his sons is haraam, because it is obligatory to cover the ‘awrah, except
in the presence of his wife. It is also haraam to look at the ‘awrah of
another person. It is not permissible to do any of these things except in
the case of extreme necessity, such as medical treatment. Teaching one’s
sons how to shave the pubic hair is not regarded as a need or necessity
which makes it permissible to uncover the ‘awrah, because it is
permissible to teach them by describing and speaking, without uncovering
anything; it is also possible to tell them how to remove the hair by other
methods. 

The saheeh texts clearly indicate that it is haraam for a man
to look at the ‘awrah of another man, and for a woman to look at the ‘awrah
of another woman. The scholars are unanimously agreed on this prohibition. 

It was narrated that Abu Sa‘eed al-Khudri (may Allah be
pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) said: “No man should look at the ‘awrah of another man, and no
woman should look at the ‘awrah of another woman.”

Narrated by Muslim (338). 

Al-Tirmidhi (2794), Abu Dawood (4017) and Ibn Maajah (1920)
narrated from Bahz ibn Hakeem, from his father, that his grandfather said: I
said, O Messenger of Allaah, with regard to our ‘awrah, what may we uncover
of it and what must we conceal? He said: “Cover your ‘awrah except from your
wife and those whom your right hand possesses (i.e., concubines).” I said, O
Messenger of Allaah, what if the people live close together? He said, “If
you can make sure that no one sees it, then do not let anyone see it.” I
said, O Messenger of Allaah, what if one of us is alone? He said, “Allaah is
more deserving that you should feel shy before Him than people.” 

This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Tirmidhi. 

Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Sharh
Muslim: The words of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him), “No man should look at the ‘awrah of another man, and no woman should
look at the ‘awrah of another woman”, indicate that it is haraam for a man
to look at the ‘awrah of another man, and for a woman to look at the ‘awrah
of another woman. There is no difference of (scholarly) opinion concerning
this matter. The same prohibition applies to a man looking at the ‘awrah of
a woman, and a woman looking at the ‘awrah of a man, according to scholarly
consensus. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) mentioned
a man’s looking at the ‘awrah of another man and a woman’s looking at the
‘awrah of another woman, which implies that a man’s looking at the ‘awrah of
a woman is even more forbidden. This prohibition applies with regard to
people other than husbands or masters. In the case of spouses, each may look
at the entire ‘awrah of the other. End quote. 

This father has to repent to Allah, may He be exalted, regret
what he has done, and resolve never to do it again. He should raise his
children to be modest and to have a good attitude; he should refrain from
these abhorrent actions which are indicative of a lack of modesty. 

And Allaah knows best.

Children wearing short and tight clothes: between the husband’s instructions and the wife’s objections

 

What is the ruling on wearing shorts for children who are approaching the age of puberty? What should I do if my daughter refuses to wear hijab and the abayah? What should I do with my husband? He is a very strict man and I suffer a great deal with him. He wants to protect our children from everything that is haraam, even if he does it himself, and what is the way out in this world where everyone who follows Islam these days is very strict about everything. In light of all that I am facing of problems and difficulties, how can I learn about Islam? They say it is not permissible to disobey the husband. What can I do if I do not trust his knowledge, how can I follow what he tells me? What is the solution?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:  

Ships that cross the ocean and carry people cannot travel
without a captain to navigate them so that they will bring their passengers
to the safe shore. The Muslim family now is like a ship on a turbulent sea
of trials and tribulations and things that may lead to doom. The enemies of
Islam have united to weaken the Muslim family and indeed to wipe it out, and
they are using all possible means to achieve that. These global conferences
that move from one country to another, led by global organisations and
leaders, have the sole aim of destroying the Muslim family, severing its
bonds, taking away its modesty and killing its chastity. These satellite
channels have a bad effect on the Muslim family; these newspapers and
magazines and other media are all trying to achieve one goal that is obvious
to any observer. 

It is through these crashing waves that the ship of the
Muslim family must sail, and if it does not have a wise and rational
captain, then it will be wrecked. 

The head of the family is the captain of that ship. We do not
blame any father who fears temptation or corruption for his family and
children. These corruptions have become too many and too strong for the head
of the family to resist them on his own, so how about if that is compounded
by his wife not helping him in that? Indeed, how will it be if she opposes
him in his efforts to save the family from these temptations and
corruptions? 

You should understand that the matter is not trivial and that
you have to be the best help to your husband in guiding the members of your
family. Even if you are not convinced of his rulings and decisions, you
should not oppose him or go against him, especially in front of your
children, because that will have an extremely bad effect on the upbringing
of your children. 

What the father wants from his family members will be
something supported by an Islamic text enjoins or something that he thinks
is in the best interests of his children, so he enjoins it because it is in
their best interests, or he forbids it because it is detrimental to them. If
there is any room for discussion with regard to the latter issue, there is
no room for discussion with regard to the former, because sharee‘ah governs
all our actions and we do not have the option of not accepting it and
implementing it. 

Secondly: 

You should understand that Allah, may He be exalted, has
commanded you and your husband to protect yourselves against His Fire, and
also to protect your children. The matter is not trivial; rather it is
extremely serious. Your husband is not the only one who will be asked about
his flock; rather you will be asked likewise.  

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families
against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are
(appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the
Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”

[al-Tahreem 66:6]. 

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be
pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace
of Allah be upon him) say: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is
responsible for his flock. The ruler of the people is a shepherd and is
responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his household and is
responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house
and children and is responsible for her flock. The slave is the shepherd of
his master’s wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd and
each of you is responsible for his flock.”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (853) and Muslim (1829). 

You should understand that raising your children should not
be done with harshness and cruelty, nor should they be neglected. 

The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked: What is
the successful way for parents to raise their children? 

They replied: The successful way to raise children is the
moderate or middle way, in which there is no excessive strictness or
neglect. There should be no violence or harshness, and there should be no
neglect or carelessness. The father should raise his children, teach them,
direct them and guide them to good characteristics and etiquette, and he
should forbid to them every bad characteristic or attitude. 

And Allah is the source of strength; may Allah send blessings
and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and Companions. End
quote. 

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaaq
‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allah ibn Ghadyaan 

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah,
25/290, 291 

Thirdly: 

You should understand that Islam enjoins you to teach your
children to pray when they are seven years old, and it enjoins you to
separate them in their beds when they are ten years old. This is so that
they will grow up in the best way and so that they will be righteous in the
future. Even if they are not yet accountable – because they have not yet
reached puberty – this does not mean that their guardians and families
should not instruct them to do that which is in their best interests. The
command here is addressed to you, not to them. The matter here is what is
good for them and for you. 

In this way you can raise them to have a good character and
attitude in general, to be modest and especially to be chaste. That also
includes instructing them to guard their chastity and not to wear tight or
short clothes. On the one hand, this has to do with raising them to be
modest and chaste; on the other hand it has to do with preventing
provocation of desire and temptation in those who see them, whether they are
members of the family or relatives – for example. Islam cannot enjoin you to
separate them in their beds and then allow you to let them wear short and
tight clothes all the time they are awake! So think about this and beware
lest you be the cause of fitnah (temptation) and corruption for which all
the water in the sea could not provide sufficient tears and which would lead
to great sorrow and regret.  

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have
mercy on him) was asked:

We often see in women’s gatherings girls and young girls,
around the age of seven years, wearing short or tight clothes, or strange
haircuts, or haircuts for small girls that look like haircuts for boys. If
we speak to the mothers and try to advise them, they argue that the children
are still small. We hope that you can give us clear advice about children’s
clothing and haircuts, may Allah bless you. 

He replied:

It is well known that the individual is influenced by things
in his childhood and will continue to be affected by them after he grows up.
Hence the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined us to
instruct our children to pray when they are seven years old, and to smack
them if they do not pray when they reach the age of ten, so that they will
get used to it, as the child will follow that which he is used to. If a
young girl gets used to wearing short clothes that only come to the knee,
and short sleeves that only come to the elbow or shoulder, she will lose all
modesty and will want to wear these clothes after she grows up. The same
applies with regard to hair; a woman should have a hairstyle that is
different from that of men; if she makes the hair like a man’s hair, she
will be resembling men and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) cursed women who resemble men. 

It should be noted that the family is responsible for these
children and their upbringing and education, as the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A man is the shepherd of his household
and is responsible for his flock.” So beware of being heedless; the father
should be serious about the upbringing his sons and daughters, and he should
care for them, so that Allah will guide them and they will become a delight
to him. End quote. 

Al-Liqa’ al-Shahri, 66/10 

Fourthly: 

If a girl is brought up from an early age to be modest and
chaste and to cover herself, she will be the one who wants to wear the
abayah and khimaar (head cover), even before she reaches puberty. But if she
grows up not wearing clothes that cover, and her family fell short when she
was small, they (now) have to persist in advising and reminding her. If that
does not convince her, then harsher measures may be used, sparingly, to
prevent her from doing what she wants, so that she will have no room to do
whatever she wants with regard to this matter and others, because if they
keep quiet about her clothing, because she refuses to wear the abayah or
covering clothes, she will dare to do other things. This is a signal that
the ship is about to sink! Because decisions are now in the hands of the
children. At the beginning, we advocated gentleness and kindness, not
despairing of the child being set straight, and not using harsh methods
except when the wise captain sees fit. 

The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked: At what
age is a girl obliged to wear hijab? Should we force (female) students to
wear it, even though they object? 

They replied: 

When a girl reaches puberty, it becomes obligatory for her to
wear clothes that will cover her ‘awrah, which includes the face, head and
hands, whether she is a student or not. Her guardian should instruct her to
do that, even if she dislikes it, and he should train her to do that before
she reaches puberty, so that she will get used to it, and it will be easy
for her to obey. 

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaaq
‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allah ibn Qa‘ood 

End quote. 

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah,
17/219, 220 

So be the best help to your husband in obeying Allah and
raising your children, and beware of following in the footsteps of the
enemies of Islam in describing adherence to sharee‘ah as extreme strictness.
Whatever your husband falls short in with regard to himself, advise him and
exhort him, and remind him to fear Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; do not
take his shortcomings as an excuse for your children’s shortcomings. Seek
the help of Allah your Lord to fulfil this trust in the best manner. We ask
Allah, may He be exalted, to help you to do that which pleases Him. 

In the answer to question no.
10016 we have discussed how to
raise children to be righteous. 

In the answer to question no.
10211 we have discussed the
correct way to teach small children and call them to Islam. 

And Allah knows best.

Educators are asking: Should we encourage students in middle school to offer regular Sunnah prayers and Witr?

 

We are a committee working out educational goals for study circles at the intermediate (middle school) level. We have set the following goal: The student should regularly offer regular Sunnah prayers and Witr prayer, or the student should be encouraged to offer the regular Sunnah prayers and Witr prayer. We hope that you can give us your opinion on this goal from a shar‘i point of view, and also from an educational point of view, and whether it is appropriate for this stage.

Praise be to Allaah.

It is not possible to object to such sublime goals.
Encouraging people to do acts of obedience and worship is something that
parents and educators should pay the greatest attention to, for their
children and students. If there are any shortcomings on the family’s part
in this regard, then educators should encourage their students with regard
to that in which the families have fallen short. We do not only approve of
encouraging these students to offer regular Sunnah prayers and Witr;
rather we also approve of encouraging them to observe naafil fasts, honour
their parents, help the needy, and remove harmful things from the road. We
agree with encouraging all that is good and warning against all that is
evil and bad. 

It was narrated from al-Rubayyi’ bint Mu’awwidh ibn ‘Afra’
said: On the morning of ‘Ashoora’, the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) sent word to the villages of the Ansaar around
Madeenah, saying: “Whoever started the day fasting, let him complete his
fast, and whoever started the day not fasting, let him complete the rest of
the day (without food).” 

After that, we used to fast on this day, and we would make
our children fast too, even the little ones in sha Allaah. We would make
them toys out of wool, and if one of them cried for food, we would give
(that toy) to him until it was time to break the fast. 

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1960) and Muslim (1136) 

The fast mentioned in this hadeeth is one of the naafil
fasts. 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

Whoever neglects to teach his child what will benefit him,
and pays no attention to him, has mistreated him in the worst way. In most
cases, the corruption of children results from their parents and parental
neglect of them, and their failing to teach them the obligatory duties of
Islam and the Sunnahs. So they neglected them when they were young, so they
grow up unable to benefit themselves or their parents. End quote. 

Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood,
p. 229 

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have
mercy on him) said: 

Allah has enjoined fasting on every Muslim who is
accountable, is able to do it, and is not travelling. With regard to the
small child who has not yet reached puberty, fasting is not obligatory for
him, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“The Pen has been lifted from three,” and he mentioned, “the child until he
reaches puberty.” But his guardian should tell him to fast when he reaches
an age at which he is able to do so, because this is part of disciplining
him and training him to observe the pillars of Islam. We see some people who
leave their children and do not instruct them to pray or fast. This is
wrong, because he will be accountable for that before Allah, may He be
blessed and exalted. They claim that they do not make their children fast
because they feel sorry for them and out of compassion towards them. But the
one who truly feel sorry for his child and feels compassion towards him is
the one who trains him to develop good characteristics and do righteous
deeds, not the one who fails to discipline them and give them a beneficial
upbringing. End quote. 

Majmoo‘ Fataawa al-Shaykh al-‘Uthaymeen
(19/19,20)  

We encourage you to encourage the youth in the intermediate
level to offer the regular Sunnah prayers. Indeed we would ask you to do
more, namely encouraging them to do good in general, to beware of sins and
evil, and to give them an upbringing from an early age that will be most
beneficial for them by Allah’s leave; falling short in that or neglecting it
will lead to a great deal of corruption. 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

One of the things of which the child is in the greatest need
is paying attention to his attitude, for he will grow up in the way that the
educator accustomed him to from an early age, be it stubbornness, anger,
argumentativeness, being hasty, being influenced by whims and desires,
foolishness, being temperamental and greed. Then when he grows up it will be
difficult for him to deal with these characteristics, and these attitudes
will become deeply rooted in his character. Hence you find that most people
have bad attitudes and behaviour; this is because of bad upbringing. End
quote.

Tuhfat al-Mawdood, p. 240 

We ask Allah to guide and help you. 

For more information, please see the answer to question no.
103526 

And Allah knows best.

Ruling on looking at adorned women deliberately and otherwise

 

What is the ruling on looking at adorned women deliberately and otherwise?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Looking deliberately is not permitted, because Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking
at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual
acts). That is purer for them”

[al-Noor 24:30]. 

Allaah has made the eye the mirror of the heart. If a person
lowers his gaze, then his heart controls his desire and will, but if he lets
his gaze wander freely, then his heart will give free rein to his desire. In
al-Saheeh it is narrated that on the Day of Sacrifice, al-Fadl ibn
‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) set off from Muzdalifah to Mina,
and some women passed by and al-Fadl started looking at them. The Messenger
of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned his face
to the other side. Ibn al-Qayyim said in Rawdat al-Muhibbeen: This
shows that it is forbidden to look at non-mahram women and is a denunciation
in practical terms. If looking were permissible, he would have approved of
it. In al-Saheeh it is narrated that [the Prophet] (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has decreed for the son of
Adam his share of zina which will inevitably come to him. The eye commits
zina and its zina is looking. The tongue commits zina and its zina is
speaking. The foot commits zina and its zina is walking. The hand commits
zina and its zina is touching. The heart longs and wishes, and the private
part confirms that or denies it.” He started with the zina of the eye
because it is the basis of the zina of the hand, foot, heart and private
part. And the zina of the mouth by kissing is implied by the reference to
the zina of the mouth by speaking. And he described the private part as
confirming that if the action is fulfilled, or denying it if it is not. He
said: This hadeeth is one of the clearest signs that the eye can sin by
looking, and that this is its zina. This is a refutation of those who permit
letting the gaze wander freely. End quote. 

As for looking unintentionally, one will not be punished for
that if the heart did not intend it, but if he follows it with another look,
then he is sinning. Muslim, Abu Dawood, al-Tirmidhi and al-Nasaa’i narrated
that Jareer (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I asked the Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about an accidental
look and he commanded me to avert my gaze. Al-Tirmidhi said: This is a
saheeh hasan hadeeth. Ahmad, Abu Dawood and al-Tirmidhi narrated from
Buraydah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he said: The Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to ‘Ali: “O
‘Ali, do not follow one look with another, for you are allowed the former
but you are not allowed the latter.” Al-Tirmidhi said: Hasan ghareeb. These
two hadeeth indicate that if a person averts his gaze immediately, then
there is no sin on him, but if he persists in looking then he is sinning. In
Bab Nazr al-Faja’ah wa ma kuriha min al-Nazr in Kitaab al-Wara’
by Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal, there is a report from Abu Bakr Ahmad ibn Muhammad
al-Marwadhi which says: I said to Abu ‘Abd-Allaah (i.e., Imam Ahmad): A man
has repented and says: Even if my back were struck with a whip I would not
sin, but he could not stop looking. He said: What repentance is this? Jareer
said: I asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) about an accidental look and he commanded me to avert my gaze. End quote.

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