Praise be to Allaah.
The man remains a stranger to the woman and it is not
permissible for him to look at her, shake hands with her or be alone with
her. If he wants to marry her, then he should propose marriage – and in this
case it becomes permissible for him to look at her only; not shake hands
with her or be alone with her. If her family agree and give her in marriage
to him, then he becomes her husband and she becomes his wife, and it is
permissible for him to do everything – looking, being alone with her,
touching her, shaking hands and being intimate, because Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts,
from illegal sexual acts)
6. Except from their wives…”
Marriage is established as soon as the marriage contract is
done, hence if one of the spouses dies after the marriage contract has been
done, the other one inherits from him or her, even if that is before
This is the evidence that was quoted by the scholars with
regard to this issue.
But it has become customary among people to announce the
marriage contract separately from the consummation, not because consummation
is haraam after the marriage contract, but rather because the husband’s
circumstances may not allow him to take his wife to the marital home, so
there is what is known as “announcement of consummation” or “the wedding
night”. As this is the case, the husband should not consummate the marriage
with his wife until after the consummation has been announced, because if he
consummated the marriage with her before that, it may cause serious problems
for both of them. He may divorce her or die, and she may be a virgin who
then loses her virginity, and she may become pregnant, thus the woman
exposes herself to suspicion and she and her family may be the subject of
unending gossip. See the answer to question no.
As for the questioner saying that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) was not alone with ‘Aa’ishah during the
period between the marriage contract and the consummation, this is just
conjecture. Who can be certain about that? That period lasted for three
years, during which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) used to come to Abu Bakr’s house twice a day, morning and evening, as
is proven in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (476).
So who can say that the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) was never alone with ‘Aa’ishah during that period?
However, it may be that this is true, but that does not mean
that this is haraam, because it is proven that it is permissible, based on
evidence from the Qur’aan, as quoted above.
And Allaah knows best.