I hope you can help me as I am in a deep trouble. I knew some girl who works far from where her family lives. For two years we had a loving relationship, we were meeting and committing Zina (adultery), we agreed to marry because I can not forget her, and she can not forget me either. Since she knew me she became religious and changed a lot. Allah knows how much I love her. Do you advise me to marry her? I am suffering.
Praise be to Allaah.
Before answering your question, we must remind you that it is
obligatory to repent and regret what you have done with this woman, because
you have fallen into several major sins, the most serious of which is zina
(fornication) which is clearly forbidden in the Qur'aan and Sunnah, and the
scholars are unanimously agreed that it is haraam, and wise people are
unanimously agreed that it is abhorrent and evil.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a
Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an
evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah forgives him)”
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing
adultery.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2475) and Muslim (57).
There is a severe punishment for zina in al-Barzakh, before
the punishment in the Hereafter. In the famous hadeeth of Samurah ibn Jundub
(may Allaah be pleased with him) about the dream, it says:
“… then we [i.e., the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) and Jibreel and Mikaa’eel] proceeded and came to
something like a tannoor (a kind of oven), in which there were clamouring
voices.” He [the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)] said:
“We looked into it and there we saw naked men and women. Flames were coming
to them from the bottom of it, and when the flames reached them, they made
uproar. I said to them [i.e., the two angels who were accompanying him],
‘Who are these?’ … They said, ‘We will tell you. As for the naked men and
women in the structure that resembled a tannoor oven, they are the
adulterers and adulteresses.’”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6640).
Allaah has ordained the hadd punishment for zina. He says
concerning the hadd punishment for an unmarried person (interpretation of
“The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them
with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a
punishment prescribed by Allaah, if you believe in Allaah and the Last Day.
And let a party of the believers witness their punishment”
As for the person who has previously been married, the hadd
punishment is execution, In the hadeeth narrated by Imam Muslim in his
Saheeh (3199) it is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: “For a previously-married person with a
previously-married person, [the punishment is] one hundred lashes and
What we have said to you applies to the woman too, and she
should realize that her sin is even worse, but because, as you say, she has
become righteous, we hope that her repentance is sincere and that Allaah
will forgive her by His grace and kindness.
You should note that if you have not both repented from the
sin of zina, then it is not permissible for you to marry her, because Allaah
has forbidden the zaani and zaaniyah to marry unless they both repent.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“The adulterer — fornicator marries not but an adulteress
— fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none
marries her except an adulterer — fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means
that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah
(female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is
either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or
idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a
Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then
she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or
idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on
This clearly points to the abhorrent nature of zina, and that
is tarnishes the honour of the one who does it in a way that other sins do
not. Allaah tells us that no woman would marry a zaani but a woman who is
also a zaaniyah, who is like him, or a mushrik woman who associates others
with Allaah and does not believe in the Resurrection or in reward and
punishment (in the Hereafter), and who does not adhere to the commands of
Allaah. And similarly, no one would marry a zaaniyah except a zaani or a
mushrik. “Such a thing is forbidden to the believers” means, it is
haraam for them to marry zaanis or zaaniyahs.
What the verse means is that if a person wants to marry the
man or woman who commits zina and has not repented from that, despite the
fact that Allaah has prohibited that, then he is either not adhering to the
ruling of Allaah and His Messenger, in which case he cannot be anything but
a mushrik, or he is adhering to the ruling of Allaah and His Messenger but
he agrees to this marriage despite knowing that this person has committed
zina, in which case this marriage is also zina, and he is an immoral zaani.
If he truly believed in Allaah, he would not do that. This clearly indicates
that it is haraam to marry a zaaniyah unless she repents, or to marry a
zaani unless he repents, because marriage is the strongest type of
companionship, and Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Assemble
those who did wrong, together with their companions” [al-Saaffaat 37:22].
Allaah has forbidden that because of what it involves of great evil, and
lack of protective jealousy, and attribution of children who are not his to
the husband, and the zaani failing to keep her chaste because he is
distracted elsewhere, any one of which is sufficient reason for the
prohibition. End quote.
Tafseer al-Sa’di (p. 561).
The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked:
A man committed zina with a virgin and wants to marry her. Is
it permissible for him to do that?
If the matter is as described, each of them must repent to
Allaah and give up this sin, and regret what has happened of immoral
actions, and resolve not to do it again, and do a lot of good deeds, in the
hope that Allaah will accept their repentance and turn their bad deeds into
good. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke
not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah
has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse
___ and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
69. The torment will be
doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in
70. Except those who
repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for
those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is
Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful
71. And whosoever
repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards
Allaah with true repentance”
If he wants to marry her, then he must wait for one menstrual
cycle to establish whether her womb is empty before doing the marriage
contract with her. If it turns out that she is pregnant, then it is not
permissible for him to do the marriage contract with her until after she
gives birth, in accordance with the hadeeth in which the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade a man to water the crop of
another with his own water. End quote.
Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/247).
So repent to Allaah and set your affairs straight, and do a
lot of good deeds, and after that it will be permissible for you to get
married. We ask Allaah to accept your repentance and to forgive you, by His
grace and mercy.
See also question no. 85335.
And Allaah knows best.