Tuesday, 11 October 2011

She wants to marry a kaafir on paper only


I am a single woman living on my own, and I work in a hotel in reception. Is my work haraam, knowing that I do not wear hijab and I afraid that I will be fired if I start to wear hijab, and I cannot find any other work? I am 34 years old. Can I get married on paper to a non-Muslim so that I will be able to emigrate and go and live abroad, because I am afraid of spinsterhood and the people talk a lot, and I cannot stand their watching me any more.

be to Allaah.



We ask
Allaah to guide you and make you independent of means by that which He has
permitted so that you will have no need of that which He has forbidden, and
by means of His bounty alone.  


question implies that currently you are not wearing hijab, for fear of being
fired from your work. We will never advise you to do anything but that which
we would want for our own wives, sisters and daughters. No matter what the
situation, as you say, the hijab is an important matter. It is the symbol of
the believing woman and the sign of her modesty and chastity. It is not
permissible to neglect it on the grounds of seeking provision, which Allaah
has guaranteed to everyone, and has promised to give more to those who obey
Him and seek His pleasure. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And in
the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised”

[al-Dhaariyaat 51:22] 

And Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): 

whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him
to get out (from every difficulty).

3. And He
will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts
his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will
accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things”

[al-Talaaq 65:2-3] 

So have
certain faith and trust in Allaah, and be certain that your provision will
not cease even if you wear hijab, rather we hope that this will bring a
great relief and great provision as Allaah has promised. It is narrated in a
saheeh report that our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will
compensate him with something better than it.” Classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in Hijaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah. 

So wear your
hijab and seek permissible work in which there is no free mixing with men,
and Allaah will compensate you with good, for all things are in His hand,
and His bounty is great, may He be glorified and exalted. 

See also
question no. 6666. 


It is not
permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim, no matter what the
reasons, even if that is only on paper as you say. Marriage is a serious
matter and is to be taken seriously, regardless of how it is done. There is
no such thing as marriage on paper only, as some people think, rather there
is binding marriage. If it fulfils the conditions then it is valid and if it
does not fulfil the conditions then it is a haraam marriage and it is not
permissible for anyone to do it. 

Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“And give
not (your daughters) in marriage to Al‑Mushrikoon (polytheists) till they
believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a
(free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon)
invite you to the Fire, but Allaah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness
by His Leave, and makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons,
signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”

[al-Baqarah 2:221] 

“then if
you ascertain that they are true believers send them not back to the
disbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the
disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:10] 

al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The Muslims are
unanimously agreed that a kaafir cannot inherit from a Muslim and a kaafir
man cannot marry a Muslim woman. End quote from al-Fataawa al-Kubra

Once again
we refer to the matter of provision (rizq) – as marriage comes under the
general heading of provision. One of the greatest means of attaining
provision is obedience to Allaah, may He be exalted. It is strange that
people try to attain provision by disobeying Allaah. This is more likely to
close the door to provision; even if it is open, this will cause a person to
get carried away (and he will end up in Hellfire) –  we ask Allaah to keep
us safe and sound. 

follows an important hadeeth which will increase us in faith and certain
belief that provision comes through obedience to Allaah. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Holy Spirit (Jibreel)
has inspired to me that no soul will die until it has completed its
appointed term and received its provision in full, so fear Allaah and do not
be desperate in seeking provision, and no one of you should be tempted to
seek provision by means of committing sin if it is slow in coming to him,
for that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him.” Narrated
by Abu Na’eem in al-Hilyah; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 2085. 

Do not pay
any attention to the looks and comments of others, for their words do not in
fact cause any harm or benefit. Late marriage may be for a good purpose
willed by Allaah; we do not know where goodness lies. So delegate your
affairs to Allaah, may He be exalted, and spend your time in doing good
deeds and expiating bad deeds, for the appointed time will soon come, the
Day on which the victors will attain victory and the losers will incur

whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is
successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a
deceiving thing)”

‘Imraan 3:185] 

How many
married woman has Allaah blessed with children and wealth, but they will be
driven to the Fire on that Day. 

How many
women do not attain wealth or find a husband, but they will be in the
highest parts of Paradise. 

Have faith,
obey Allaah and remain chaste, for this world is transient and fleeting. 

the home of the Hereafter ___ that is the life indeed (i.e. the eternal life
that will never end), if they but knew”

[al-‘Ankaboot 29:64] 

May Allaah
help us and you to obey Him and seek His pleasure. 

And Allaah
knows best.

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